Assalamu Alaikum Everyone!
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Today's is another blog post of a video that was uploaded to my channel. I am really excited for today’s post, and inshAllah you are too. Today is my first post in my Muslimah Talk series, and I am really excited for this series as I will be able to have heartfelt conversations with you on topics that are important. I want this series to be a good vibes series where we will discuss topics you may not feel as comfortable talking about with others you know. I want this series to cover topics that you guys truly care about, so under any post of this series feel free to comment down below your questions or topic ideas. I will also create a google form where you can submit your questions and topics more anonymously.
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Anyways, today’s post will cover “finding confidence in wearing the hijab”. I thought of this idea for multiple reasons.
One, it hits close to home. Obviously, I am a hijabi myself, and have been for quite a while now. My mother is a hijabi, my sister is a hijabi and pretty much any other girl or woman that I hold close to my heart is a hijabi. So, I resonate a lot with this topic and I can understand many of the things that are brought up when talking about the hijab.
Two, I have been noticing this specific trend kind of increasing and it is little bit worrisome for reasons I will mention in another post. This trend is not only seen in influencers living in western societies but also the Arab world and among the Muslim community as a whole. It is the trend of taking off the hijab.
Three, I want this post and video to be an informative tool for all young girls out there who are questioning the hijab and their identity as Muslim females. I know how the hijab can sometimes seem like a burden and a struggle to many young females, so I want us to continue this conversation and learn more about the hijab.
If you are not a Muslim girl, and you are here out of curiosity, I hope you can find this post educational for you in any way, shape or form. I believe that the general topic ideas that will be discussed can be applied to anyones life and situation. You can maybe even use this video to learn more about the hijab and why most Muslim girls and women choose to wear it.
I hope this post inspires you to wear the hijab and be proud of your identity as a Muslim female. I hope you find this Muslimah Talk post helpful, and as always please share your thoughts and ideas in the comment section below.
✿ What does the hijab mean in Islam?
We will start off with discussing the meaning and importance of the hijab in Islam. It is unfortunate and upsetting how many of us lack knowledge of our Deen (or faith). I believe this is one of the biggest reason why there could be a lot of stigma and controversy around the hijab, when in reality there shouldn’t be.
In Islam, Allah (SWT) recommends hijab for all girls and women who are modest and pious at heart. When those girls and women participate in wearing the hijab, people in society will know them as modest and pious. Wearing the hijab gives women the empowerment that their beauty is not meant for everyone to see and view. By giving girls and women control over the viewership of her beauty, it is a lifestyle of empowerment for the believing woman. That being said, as much as the hijab is an outer covering, it is also something that comes from within. As much as we are meant to be modest and pious on the outside, our hearts have to show that same energy. We have to be in good character and only speak of good. The hijab cannot be imposed by any human being on any girl or women, and it has to come from within. That way it be worn correctly, and it will not be deceptive or hypocritical of the person wearing it. It has to come with integrity and understanding. As for everything Allah knows what people have in their heart.
As for the hijab truly being fard, AKA mandatory or obligatory, there is a clear agreement from all Muslim scholars on the hijab being obligatory. The general ayah (or verse) governing the head covering is in Surah Al Ahzab, surah 33, verse 59 where Allah azzawajal states, “O Prophet, tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to lower over themselves a portion of their jilbabs. That is more suitable that they will be known (as Muslims) and not be harmed. And ever is Allah Forgiving and Merciful.”
The word that is usually misinterpreted when it is translated, is jilbab. Without the full understanding of the meaning of this word, people sometimes translate it to mean just modest dress. According to the Arabic dictionary, the word actually means khimar or headscarf. With the true translation of this word, this verse clearly says that we should wear the hijab in order to be known as Muslim women and also to be protected.
There is another ayah that further states the obligatory wearing of the hijab. In Surah Noor, Ayah 31, Allah azzawajal states, “And tell the believing women to reduce [some] of their vision (i.e. lower the gaze) and guard their private parts and not expose their adornment except that which [necessarily] appears thereof and to wrap their headscarf’s over their chests and not expose their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers, their brothers' sons, their sisters' sons, their women, that which their right hands possess, or those male attendants having no physical desire, or children who are not yet aware of the private aspects of women. And let them not stamp their feet to make known what they conceal of their adornment. And turn to Allah in repentance, all of you, O believers, that you might succeed.”
The hands and face are clearly what is referred to when Allah says “except that which ordinarily appears" . This is the opinion of Aisha bint Abi Bakr (RA), Anas ibn Malik (RA), Abdullah ibn Abbas (RA) and Miswar ibn Makhrama (RA) - all companions of the Prophet (S). Almost every tafsir or commentary on the Quran will include some if not all of these authorities for this opinion. The strongest proof to prove that the exemption refers to the face and the hands, is salah (or prayer). A woman may reveal her face and hands in her salah (while everything else must be covered). In the context of the ayah, it confirms the practice of wearing the headscarf and covering everything else except the face and hands.
I know this was a lot of information, but if need be, then rewind so you can make sure that you have full understanding of the hijab. I wanted to start this video with the verses in which Allah (SWT) reveals to us that we have to wear the hijab, as true followers of Islam. Just like the 5 daily prayers and fasting Ramadan, wearing the hijab is a duty for all Muslim girls and women. I believe as Muslims, we have full trust in Allah, which is why when Allah commands us to do something, we know it is for the best, as seen in these ayats or verses.
✿ How can I motivate myself to wear the hijab?
In order for you to have motivation to wear the hijab, there are a few things that will help in increasing your motivation, inshAllah.
Firstly, friends. If you have hijab-wearing friends, even if its only one, it will help you in finding motivation and confidence. It will help you in taking this step forward. I am obviously not saying for you to leave all your non-hijabi friends and change them, no, that’s gonna be hard. However, try not to allow any comments or hatred to hurt you or bother you. One of the things that will help you with this, is having at least one hijabi friend. That way you will feel like you are not alone or that you are an outsider of some sort. If you are finding it hard to find hijabi friends, try to get involved in your Muslim community or your Mosque. If you are still finding it a struggle, then I will be your friend. Reach out to me on social media, and we can become besties.
Secondly, watch videos on the hijab, its meanings, importance and graciousness that Allah (SWT) provided for us because Allah loves us and knows what is best for us. All these things will help you find understanding and confidence in wearing it. These types of videos will ease it a lot for you and remind you of the good deeds that will you get, inshAllah.
Thirdly, follow and read about good hijabi influencers on social media. I am not talking about any hijabi influencers that might pop up on your feed, but true hijabi influencers that wear the hijab correctly, and have an important message that they want to share. Don’t follow those that wear the hijab for fame or for the wrong reasons as they might confuse you and represent to you the wrong image of hijab. True hijabi influencers will show you how they are able to wear the correct whilst also being successful in their lives. Try to take what is good and important from these social media influencers, and remember not to make them your role models or leaders, because any body can make mistakes.
Thus, these are the three things that influence any decision we make in our lives. The people that we choose to surround ourselves with (AKA friends), when we care about the Islamic point of view of any step we take in life, and social media influencers and other public figures that we might hold up to high standards.
✿ How to prepare and begin wearing the hijab?
Now that we are motivated and excited to wear the hijab, let us prepare and get ready to wear it. There are a few points that I would like you all to know.
In the beginning, the most important thing for you to remember is intention. You want to wear the hijab because it is an obligatory duty from Allah. You want to wear the hijab so you can get closer to Allah, not because any human being commanded, asked or forced you to wear it. That way, you will get huge blessings for this step that you took, inshAllah.
Secondly, you want to talk with your parents about this new step that you are taking, and that you truly need their support and their help on this journey.
This is where my message to parents or other family members comes in. Your support and agreement for your daughters, sisters, nieces, or even mother, is crucial for them to find confidence and ease when taking the step to wear the hijab. It will help them in doing a duty that will help them get closer to Allah (SWT). Over that, this is part of your duty as a parent, to guide your daughters, and sons, on the right path.
Thirdly, when going to purchase your hijabs. It is a good idea to purchase a solid colour hijab that can go with all your clothing pieces. Some good colours include, black, white, beige, gray or indigo. Choose a colour from those maybe that suits your wardrobe and your skin tone. Over time, your hijab wardrobe will increase, and you will have more experience with being a hijabi.
Next, you want to watch hijabi videos on how to wrap/wear the hijab. There are ones that are specific to each face shape, and you can pick the one that will look most suitable to you. Once you begin following these tutorials, you will naturally come to find two things. One, learning to wrap the hijab might be harder than you thought, obviously because you’re not used to wearing it. Two, you might find that you look different with the hijab. Again, obviously you were not a hijabi before, so your appearance will look a little different. Over time, you will get used to both these things. So, it’s totally normal during the beginning stages.
I think we are at number five? You want to prepare yourself for the first outing with the hijab. You want to pick an outfit that is suitable for the hijab, and wear the hijab style that you found most suitable for you and the outfit. During your first day out with the hijab, you might feel like the whole world is staring at you, but trust me that is not the case at all. It is just a feeling because you know you are out and look different from yourself with the hijab. Trust me, this is just feeling that all new hijabi wearing Muslimahs get when they first begin this journey.
✿ How do I continue to be confident as a hijabi?
I want to end this video on a very important note. It breaks my heart whenever I hear of hijabi taking off the hijab, especially after wearing it for so many years. So, it is important to know how can we continue to wear the hijab with confidence, and not to allow anything to hinder this journey.
My very first point, is to make duaa to Allah. Pray to Allah to help strengthen you on this path and ease it for you. This is the most thing that will help strengthen you on this path.
Whenever, you find hardships when wearing the hijab, don’t allow it to heavily affect you. Try to always find solutions to such situations you may or may not face. You may want to ask your hijabi friends, your mom, or any other person who you trust. You can also do your own research on the internet, however be careful, because not everything on the internet is true. You can also work on finding new solutions to these problems. I want to further tell you the impact that the girls you choose to befriend and those you follow on social media, will have on you. Make sure you choose the right ones. Because anything that you choose to spend your time on, over time it will begin to affect you. So make sure that what you choose to spend your time on is something good and will push your forward, not pull you back.
As well, to any female that fears the hijab will stop her from getting a position or anything that she wants. There is something whenever I put it in my mind, I find it heavily soothing. And it is, “Whoever gives up something for the sake of Allah, Allah will substitute him with something better”. You cannot imagine how many things might get close to us, and we really want it, but we know that it has something haram (or forbidden), so we leave it to Allah azzawajal. Wallahi, after a period of time, does not have to be sometime close, but it could be after some while, Allah will substitute and reward us with something so much better. We will thank Allah a million times, because we left that thing.
Finally, one of the biggest things that will help anyone continue doing a mandatory duty that they have to do as a Muslim, is thinking of the end of time. It is important to remember that everything we do in this dunya (or worldly life) will come to an end at some point. Nothing will stay with us except for our deeds, whether good or bad. The hijab is one of the biggest duties that will help us get closer to Allah and Jannah (or Paradise). That being said, continue to remember that whenever you do anything life, especially an obligatory duty that Allah commanded us to do. I know it might be scary, but what if today was our last day in this world, will it be worth it not to do something Allah asked us to do, because we chose to put the opinions of society at a higher level than the words of Allah.
Anyways, that was it for today’s post, I know it was quite long with a lot information, but it was good information, right? I pray to Allah that you found this video helpful, and you can take it as message to begin your journey on this right path. Please share this post with all the girls you know that can hopefully find this information helpful. As I said in the beginning, please let me know what you thought of this post and what other things would you like me to talk about. I have also linked a google form down at the beginning of this post, where you can share your thoughts or questions. This google form will be completely anonymous so don’t you worry. I pray to Allah that you all found this post informative and learned something. I hope you are able to apply these habits into your own lives, inshAllah. Jazakum Allah Khair! ♡♡
My Muslimah Mind
11 / 16 / 2020 at 1:11 PM